So we are here again, new year new me and all that. I think after going into 2021 with expectations of returning normality and good things happening, I’ve decided to approach 2022 slightly differently. 2022 is the year for no expectations for me. I want […]
I have officially been terrible at keeping up with my blog this year. I think it has been a combination of things. Life opening back up, things changing around work life, and the battle with mental health reaching new highs and new lows. So to […]
So I started my blog two years ago, a graduate with little experience in the working world, struggling to understand how to even get to the point of being “employable” so I thought I’d go full circle and talk about where I’m up to now.
There isn’t a magical story about how I landed a dream job and I’m still there now. I landed a random job, a job I thought I’d give a try in buying. And I loved it.
I was at one company for six months, it was a little too impersonal for me. I was then at another company for a year. Unfortunately this particular company was known for its high turnover and lack of staff care which meant it was rough from the get go. I lost all my confidence, I felt like I wasn’t good enough constantly and the only comfort I found was other friends there feeling the same way. In a way I’m glad I experienced such a rough time at this place because it made me truly appreciate a company that cares when I got to my next job.
The company I work for now is a dream compared to anywhere I’ve worked before. I think as a graduate sometimes you’re so grateful to get a job you look past the imperfections and the struggles.
You feel like unless you stay for 4 years and progress you won’t have a chance to get another job after struggling to find this one. And I completely get that. But. Graduates are valuable. They have worth and they do not deserve to be treated in that way. The only thing I can say is, if you’re feeling dread or anxiety about a job it’s probably a sign you should leave.
It doesn’t matter where you are on the heirachy, an assistant or a director, you should always share a mutual respect, an eagerness to learn and an expectation that hard work and dedication should be rewarded.
I have some confidence back, I still question myself constantly but I still love what I do. I feel lucky to have found my career at 25 but it is also ok to change your career at 35 or 45 because you made a decision as a graduate and realised that it was the wrong job for you. There is no shame in leaving a company that is not right for you.
The other side to it is I faced a lot of rejection last year. I was down to the last 2 candidates on 2 occasions, I was offered a role on a maternity contract and I didn’t get interviews for countless applications. I finally got through to the job I have now and I couldn’t be happier but that doesn’t mean to say it wasn’t hard to get here.
In every application you do you will be faced against at least 70 other people. They might have more experience, or have gone above and beyond in the application. The only thing I had to remind myself was that I can only do my best, I can’t control the other applications but I could control mine. As hard as it was getting rejected I had to remind myself even getting an interview was something to be proud of. If a company doesn’t want you that doesn’t mean you’re not worth it, it means that you both weren’t right for each other.
So keep going, be positive in your job hunt as hard as it can be, and be reminded of your self worth no matter what experience you have. I feel extremely lucky to be where I am now, and I believe that’s the feeling you should have in your job.
2020 was a weird year, and that’s putting it simply. I think we can all safely say that 2020 was a terrible, strange, once in a lifetime (I hope) kind of year. If someone had told me a year ago that Christmas could be cancelled, […]
I’ve not really known what to say, I could never understand the struggle faced everyday. It’s time to educate and be educated on the reality of this, we need to hit the target, equality for all, we can’t miss. Black lives matter, Black lives matter,It’s […]
I wrote a song as a snippet of this crazy time we are living in at the moment. I am no beyonce, but I hope if anything it puts a smile on your face, and reminds you that no one is alone in this.
Thank you!
I haven’t really known what to write about recently. It’s a weird time for everyone. It is also a really easy time to over think everything. So I have had to really take a step back everyday and think about what I could do to […]
So, from having random chats with people in work, or just catching up on tv, sometimes you just think, nope i’m not about that and the world would be a better place without it. I don’t know if you have seen the TV show Room […]
So the title of this post is probably why I haven’t blogged in a while. Adulting is tiring and free time seems to be consumed by Netflix binges and naps. Excuses aside, it is important to force yourself to make time for the hobbies that make you happy, and as much as netflix binges do this, writing does as well for me.
Why is there not a class in school on council tax, water, gas and electric and all the other bills you have to pay. Why are you not warned that disposable income is a massive luxury, and a weekend binge can leave you paying for it for the rest of the month. It probably doesn’t help that whenever I go into Pets at Home and see a toy that I know Tyson will absolutely love it has to come home with me. (So worth it when i see his cute little happy face).
Anyway, adulting is hard. Everything you disliked as a kid, going to bed early, napping and wanting to get home early from a party, is like a dream for an adult. Ok, so the napping might just be me, I literally think napping should be in everyone’s schedule. Especially napping with a dog, anyway moving on…I am so tired when I get home from work that I just slump on the sofa and then move from one lying down position to another in bed. Then when it gets to the weekend you’ll have all these plans but come Sunday you regret all the plans and you don’t recover till Wednesday. Basically adulting summed up.
I am in a long term relationship, in a property we are gradually going to own, with a dog (who is basically our child) and a job that I can finally see as a career, and apparently all of this makes me an adult. Sometimes though, I just want to put my Harry Potter pyjamas on, watch a disney film and cuddle my teddy. It’s confusing. I am definitely a young adult, I still have a lot to learn about life. Like why do the weeds in the garden grow back so quickly and how does every household product cost SO much.
There is so much pressure on being an adult so quickly and I love the position I am in but sometimes stressing about money, or my job or bills only furthers my anxiety. That’s why I think it is important for everyone to have a little childish in them. I mean, as I am writing this I am wearing my #IWANNABEASPICEGIRL t shirt like the cool kid that I am.
Anyway, I am going to try to be more motivated to write these more often, to ease that anxiety and to let my inner child free. Happy Disney watching, go do something fun today, or nurse that Sunday Hangover. Remember, everyone is adulting like you, and it won’t always go smoothly but you are doing well.
Uncle John, I really don’t know where to start,Myself along with so many others now have a broken heart.You’ll be missed because you were kind, caring and always funny,We’d be sitting round at Christmas and you’d spin out something witty or punny. When it came […]